Honor is a man’s greatest need regardless of his family background, race, culture or educational status. I know many men, whether in the church or not, seem to know or can just merely recite Ephesians 5:22 “Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” We fail to realize that when we sow honor to our spouse or anyone else in authority that’s how we get to receive it. Honor means to esteem, respect, reverence, a dignity
according to a position – the feeling or expression of admiration. Many women don’t mind honoring their man, but what separates a mature wife or woman in any type of relationship from the rest is how she responds when her husband and friend falls short of her expectations. We’re in a day and time where we all are being tested in True Honoring.
During every relationship whether married, dating or job related the man is bound to do something(s) wrong. If a woman can’t honor her husband, and/or friend during those times she may end up with a wounded and dishonored husband/friend. I’ll never forget the testimony of this woman who stood beside her husband and said how he was a loser and a lousy husband in the beginning of their marriage and he didn’t know how to do a lot of things such as balance the check book. He never spent time at home with her and their three boys, they were always broke and worked all the time. He was insensitive to her needs (affection and honor) and he never prayed over his family nor did he take the lead in the spiritual area for his family. She continued putting the man under the bus and at the end of her testimony she said that when they began to have their trouble she knew she had to make a decision.
A decision is neither a feeling nor an emotion, it’s a choice. She said she could either continue to nag him or divorce him, but neither negative choices would be right. She went on to say she decided to let him fall and allow God to convert him as she honored and loved him. In Proverbs 24:16 “A righteous man may fall seven times and rise again.” In Hebrews 12:6 “God chastens those whom he loves.” God changed that man inside-out right in front of her eyes.
She realized, like we all should, that we hinder the program of the process of a godly man or woman by dishonoring that person or trying to force them to
change. The key to success is through prayer, positive confessions and then practice treating them better than they may deserve. You should be able to express your feeling to your husband about anything. When you tell him how you feel do it with respect and kindness (Sweet Lips). In Galatians 5:7 “For whatsoever a man soeth, that shall he also reap.” So ladies, treat him as you would want to be treated by honoring and praying for him. The wife that keeps nagging, manipulating and is continuously irritable may win a few fights with those tactics but you’ll always lose the war. If wives would honor their husbands even if they don’t deserve it, God will deepen your husband’s love for you as he changes your husband with a new heart to love and serve you. Revelation 3:8 says “God will open a door that no man can close.”
Come any Thursday evening or Sunday morning so that my wife Pastor Dorothy and I can get your feedback on the articles as well as fellowship and build a relationship so we all can continue to grow in honor. Come experience the love of God at Double Portion Spirit Ministries, International.